What comes first?

Whenever I am met by a thought or opinion that differs from my own, I immediately suffer from brain freeze. As you might imagine, this has not served me well. Once, in kindergarten, a schoolmate said “Your brother is a moron” and my snappy rejoinder was “So?” which, if nothing else, made me look like I supported that position, which I did not. A few years later, when another child hurled an insult at me, my potentially fatal reply was “You wanna make something of it?”, not realizing that I was about to be pummeled in the school parking lot. I learned to keep my knee-jerk reactions to myself after that episode, but this technique also has limited success. My silence is often misinterpreted as apathy, anger, agreement, disinterest, defiance or any number of other responses, depending on what reaction the other person is expecting from me.
I was grateful then, after reading the last issue of the FORUM, that I had a few days think about some of the things that had been written. Two letters were published, with two very different tones. One was measured and thoughtful; the other was angry and accusatory. I read and re-read the letters, waited for the impact of what was being said, and tried to view them objectively.
What I finally realized is that Tom Hawley, Gus Fuller, and I are all asking for the same thing, just from different points of view. What we all want is a better city, more involvement by the community, and a better business district. We are looking at the same problem through the filters of our own personal experiences.
I have been asking residents to spend their money locally. $5.00 is an arbitrary amount, picked by me because it is a non-threatening sum. My initial challenge was this: “Take $5.00 and visit a business that you think has nothing you want. Introduce yourself and buy something you can use....” It is my hope that if people do this, they will become more aware of what’s available here in Blue Island. It would be a manageable step toward being more involved in our community.
Tom Hawley is asking businesses to be more aware of the time constraints that working residents have. I have to agree that the business hours kept by most of the businesses in town are difficult to explain. It is equally difficult for the businesses to determine what would be a good time to be open. We can sit with the doors open, lights and heat on, during peak shopping hours, and not a soul wanders in. Conversely, if we stop by the shop at some odd hour of the night or day, invariably someone sees us and comes rushing over to shop.
Gus Fuller is asking that residents demand more from our elected officials. He would like to see a more aggressive stance toward recruiting and maintaining better businesses for our business district. Perhaps he is unaware of the efforts that have been made over the years. Even the ubiquitous Starbucks Coffee is not interested.
What comes first, the chicken or the egg? Do customers willing to spend money in Blue Island bring in better businesses and compel them to be open longer? Do businesses with better hours bring in better customers who spend more money? Does a city government with a strong business recruiting mindset bring in more customers and better businesses?
In my opinion, all of these are necessary; none will succeed without the others. It’s like a great symphony, where the piece only sounds right if all the instruments are played well. I will continue to play my part, and improve where I am able. We can only ask that everyone else do the same.

Candace Carr
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